Posts Tagged ‘reading’
Who are you and what have you done with my husband?
Apr
Lately, I don’t recognize my husband.
I used to know him as the guy in the house with his eyes glued to Sports Center. Or a Yankees game. Or Jazz game. Or pretty much any game at all.
These days though, I find him curled up in the corner of the couch, TV off. Reading a book. Happily reading a book, I should say. Everywhere he goes he carries around his novel so he can crack it open during a dull moment. Then, later that night he wants to talk about the book. The story line, the characters, the way the author writes, the way it makes him feel. (Can you believe it? A man talking about FEELINGS?)
Internet, my husband has become a nerd.
And it is so hot.
I’ve been a book nerd my whole life- and proud of it! I love to read. Like really, LOVE to read. I don’t have much time to do it these days, sadly. I have to be very selective about when I choose to pick up a book, because if I do everything else goes right out the window. Laundry? Forget it. Eating? Nope. Sleep? It can wait. If I read something I throw myself into it, so I really only do it over holidays and vacations now.
When I married my husband I knew he did not enjoy reading, and I was ok with that. Just because I loved it didn’t mean he had to as well. I had fully accepted that we would never be one of those old-fashioned couples on TV, both in our pj’s, sitting in bed reading together. Sure, that sounded nice, but it wasn’t a dealbreaker. There were plenty of other things we had in common.
But now! He’s a new man. Do you know what he said to me the other day? “Sometimes I’d rather read than watch TV!”
*Swoon!*
He wants us to read the same book at the same time so we can talk about it as we go. SO WE CAN TALK ABOUT BOOKS! Be still, my beating heart! So far he’s read almost five novels since January. That’s more than he’s read in probably the last ten years. Seriously, I don’t recognize the man, but I love him.
Guys, you want to know the secret to a woman’s heart? Take a genuine interest in something she loves. Whether it be reading, cooking, scrapbooking, traveling, running, bird watching, underwater basket-weaving, or whatever, just take an interest. You don’t have to do it yourself, or love it as much as she does, but TALK to her about it as though you really care. Works like magic.
Ladies, same goes for you too. This last baseball season I sat down with my husband and actually watched the Yankees play in the World Series. And something crazy happened: I liked it. But more importantly, he loved it.
Common interests strengthen a marriage…who knew?
What common interests do you share with your significant other?
Anyone have any must-read books they would suggest?
